I am writing a memoir, Sit with Me While I’m Mad, and I cuss in my memoir. I’m a Christian, and I know that many many of my Christian friends are going to have problems with that. This is for you.
As I said, my book is a memoir, and as such, it is supposed to be a true story. I am being as true to my reality as possible. Memory is fluid, and we interpret things differently depending on our perspective, but this book is as true to my experience of the world as I can possibly make it.
Yes, I could have removed the cussing. But the cussing happened, whether it was in my head or said aloud. If I deliberately change the language to be less offensive, you could, as a reader, wonder what else I’ve changed. And fairly so.
I want to be an honest reporter. This isn’t an autobiography, so there are things I’ve omitted. But what I’ve told, I want to be as close to the truth as possible. Which means including the fact that I used to cuss.
I don’t cuss much anymore, because I know it offends some people and I don’t feel like it gets me anywhere good, especially with three little kids around. I realize that there are verses in the Bible about “wholesome speech,” and swearing doesn’t fall within that category. But I also believe that God can use for good anything I surrender to him. I’ve written Sit with Me While I’m Mad with the purpose of helping those with mental illnesses, people like me, feel less alone, and to offer a glimpse of how God is faithful even in these very difficult, seemingly tragic, situations. I wholeheartedly believe God can use my writing even though it has some bad words in it.
What do you think? Can God use a book peppered with cuss words for his glory? Let me know in the comments!